This Might Be Dense, But It’s Also Yours
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This Might Be Dense:
and other stories about your girls
Welcome to This Might Be Dense: and other stories about your girls.
This blog series pulls the curtain back on a part of the body that’s been so sexualized, it’s still censored: on social media, in schools, and even in medical conversations. And yet, over half a million women die each year from breast cancer.
Censoring information about women’s bodies doesn’t protect us: it endangers us.
So, this series is both personal and practical.
It’s a love letter. A rage howl. A guidebook.
It’s a reminder that ya girls were never meant to be a mystery, especially to you.
A Closing Invitation: Talk. Ask. Tell. Normalize.
We’ve covered a lot.
Pain. Density. Risk. Milk. Microplastics. Rage. Ritual. Stardust (well, that’s coming up next).
You’ve seen how breasts are both sacred and silenced. How they’ve been claimed by patriarchy, dismissed by medicine, and misunderstood even by the women whose bodies they’re part of.
But none of this gets better unless we talk.
This final post is about a different kind of anatomy: the language and voice we use that gives structure to what often remains unsaid.
Because silence has never kept us safe. But each other? We just might.
Start Saying the Quiet Parts Out Loud
Tell your friend you just had a biopsy and you’re scared.
Tell your sister your boobs have hurt since you were 16.
Tell your coworker you’ve had to wear nursing pads for three years straight.
Tell your doctor, “No, actually, I’d like to understand my density score.”
We’ve been taught to shrink ourselves into silence. To be discreet. To not “overshare.” But what if that “overshare” is actually someone else’s missing information? What if it’s the one sentence that makes someone else feel seen, normal, not alone?
What if that discomfort we’re taught to avoid is actually the doorway to connection?
why patriarchy hates gossip (and why we should love it)
Historically, gossip didn’t mean idle chatter. It meant extended family and close female companions; those who witnessed, supported, and shared knowledge. It was the original group text; the original wellness blog; the way women passed survival information down through generations.
So of course patriarchy vilified it. Of course it made women's talk sound frivolous. Because gossip, at its core, is a system of shared information, and shared information means shared power.
And this sharing doesn’t just feel good. It saves lives.
Studies show that strong social connection — especially the kind fostered through frequent, meaningful conversation — improves immune function, reduces stress, and helps people live longer. Women tend to do this naturally. We talk. We check in. We co-regulate. And we live longer for it.
Men often benefit most from marriage: not because of marriage itself, but because it connects them to a woman’s social system. That’s how powerful women’s communication is. It extends life.
how to talk about your body without feeling like you’re breaking social code
Start with consent:
“Hey, I want to share something personal about my body — can I do that with you?”
Use humor or curiosity:
“I learned something wild about breast tissue. Wanna know it?”
Model openness:
“I didn’t know anything about this until last year. It’s honestly infuriating, but kind of empowering too, and now I want everyone to know.” (For example, you could write a 9 blog series on something!)
Ask questions, not just offer advice:
“Did you ever have breast pain growing up? I always thought that was normal.”
We can feel like talking about ourselves is selfish but it’s not; we’re sharing our humanity and this creates safe spaces.
Talking Points to Start the Conversation
“Do you know if your breasts are dense?”
“Has your doctor ever explained your BI-RADS score?”
“Did breastfeeding feel totally different than you expected?”
“Do you check your breasts because you care, or because you’re scared?”
“Have you ever done a self breast massage that nurturing?”
It’s Not Oversharing. It’s Overdue.
You’re not too much. You’re not inappropriate. You’re not off-topic.
You are making up for years of silence, generations of shame, and a medical system that often waits until women are in pain or crisis before offering information.
We don’t need to be louder to be heard; we just need to stop being so quiet with each other.
So go start something dense.
Something tender. Something real. Because your girls aren’t just yours to carry. They’re yours to know, and in knowing them, you help others know theirs, too.
If this post helped you feel more informed, keep going. This Might Be Dense: And Other Stories About Your Girls is a full series: part practical guide, part personal reclamation, all grounded in research, rage, and reverence.
🧬 Understand breast tissue types
🍼 Explore milk, hormones & density
🔥 Learn how to manage pain & fibrocystic changes
📊 Decode your BI-RADS score and risk
🩻 Know your imaging options & how to advocate
💬 Say the quiet parts out loud (current post)
🌍 Understand environmental exposures & plastic’s impact
👐 Get the breast ritual PDF to care for your girls
YOU DESERVE TO KNOW YOUR BODY BEFORE ANYONE ELSE DEFINES IT FOR YOU.
